Have you ever had the one person you‘ve known for years(off & on) you attempted dating, but it just never was the right time? If yes did you both end up dating and where did it go from there? If no, what were your reasons for not giving the person another opportunity if things ended on good terms?
Think about your answer long and hard…
You have to ask is this person a got fit for what I’ve been looking for? Have a friend-zoned this person and this may actually be the love of my life? We‘ve been off & on all this time are we really ready for each other?
There are so many questions you can ask yourself about rekindling a person from the past.
Whatever choice you make, make sure that it is the choice that makes you happy.
There are plenty of things to think about when decided whether you want to rekindle this old flame. Ya‘ll know I love making a list of things (lol), I hope you ain’t think I wasn’t going to make anything post without one.
Make sure this isn’t out of you being single and alone.
Don’t just do it because you feel the need to be in a relationship make sure the feelings are mutual.
Make sure this old flame didn’t end on bad terms, you don’t want to go into a relationship with a toxic past. Because insecurity if a MF and yes, you will probably bring up his/her ways in an argument.
Pay attention to what he/she wants. What if he doesn’t want the same thing as you? Do they want this relationship? Is this something they are invested in? Is this out of boredom for them? What are their intentions with rekindling this flame?
So you‘ve both agreed to start over, treat this as if this is a new relationship don’t bring up the past sis.
Don’t just rekindle a relationship just because you feel the need to be in a relationship, make sure this is 100% what you want and who you want to be with. Do not play with other’s people‘s emotions because you wouldn’t want someone to do the same thing.
Listen, I am not a relationship expert, hell I haven’t been in a serious relationship since my late 20s. Just be honest with yourself if this the person you want to be with or is this just loneliness kicking it.
Sis, it is okay to be single and focus on yourself.
We were raised to think that we needed to be married by our 30’s, have a good job, go to college, and a hell of a lot of other things. That’s a blog post for another day though.
If you don’t follow me on Instagram you don’t know I had a big announcement about 2 weeks ago. I am launch a podcast called A Blk Girl’s Guide To… The very first episode will be up within the next 2 week on all platforms. I am extremely excited for you guys to check it out.