When you look up the definition of “friend” this is what you get. “a person attached to another by feelings of affection or personal regard. a person who is on good terms with another; a person who is not hostile”
What does friendship mean to you?
To me, a friend is someone who supports you and is there for you through the good, bad, and the ugly. Friends argue its true, but what’s a friendship without an argument?
Throughout your life, you gain friends and you will also lose friends. If you ever ended a friendship you know it feels worse than breaking up with someone you’re in a relationship with. You no longer associate yourself with someone you tell everything to. It feels weird because that’s the first person you wanna tell the good news to and also the tea
Have you ever ended a friendship? If so, how did you feel?
To me you meet people just at the time it was meant to be and they are either there briefly or you grow together. In my 30s I’ve met so many women who have done nothing but push me to be a better blogger and better woman overall. I appreciate them beyond words.
Since I’ve gotten into my 30s I’ve been learning how to become a friend (still working on this). At the same time, I’ve learned the importance of a friend and how to value your friend. You don’t have to talk to your friend every day, you don’t have to talk to them every week. As adults people have families and other responsibilities. Make a day out the month where you and your friends go out whether its dinner, drinks, wine tasting, walking do something to play catch up.
Remember this you got somebody to support you, laugh with you, cry with you, shit take care of you at your lowest moments and not feel judged. If you have a friend like this tell them how much they are appreciated it’s important for them to know.
I’ve come to value friendships more than ever. I’ve probably haven’t been a great friend and as a person changing I can acknowledge it. No everyone isn’t going to be your friend, and yeah you will have fake friends that smile in your face but talk about you when you aren’t there. You will have friends that are selfish and only want you to be their friend. You will argue, but mend eventually and everything will go back to normal once you work out the issues.
Listen friends are important and again you gain friends and you lose friends. Value those who’ve been there to support you and not judge you event thought your idea was trash af.
VALUE THOSE FRIENDSHIPS
How can I value my friendship you ask?
Say no more fam here are some ways to help your friends feel valued. ( I am implementing these steps more and more.)
Try not to miss an event they invite you to. If you do let them know how proud you are of them and their accomplishments, then tell them why you missed the event. Truth is it’s important to be honest, and open it’s like a relationship.
Support their passion. Blogging is one of my biggest passions and I don’t ask for much shit the least you can do is subscribe to my blog. Give me your honest opinion about how my post are doing. People don’t support like they used to, you get more support from a stranger versus your friends or family. Be that friend that’s there cause truth is they will remember that shit.
Try to be there at a moment’s notice. If your friend calls/text you about something they are going through at 3:00 in the morning then damnit you better text/listen as much as you can. Everyone has their moments when they just need that person there to listen. I could care less if it doesn’t make sense and you’ve told him/her to leave the situation a million times. A listening ear will always be needed without an opinion.
Listen I am no guru and again I am still learning how to be a good friend. I hope each and every one of my friends near and dear to my heart. My goal for this year was to make new friends and I did, people are always yellow ” No new friends”, but friends come whenever they are meant to come into your life.