Dating in 2018

Calling all my single ladies!

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Dating in 2018 is probably one of the most awkward things for me as a 30-year-old single woman. I have been single since about mid-2015 ( I think?) when I ended my short-lived relationship. Since then I’ve been posted going on dates now and then just enjoying me. One of the most important things I think after getting out of a relationship with someone if relearning who you are because sometimes that relationship could have been bad for you.

The top two things that drive me insane about other people in regards to my dating life are ” When are you getting a boyfriend?” or ” You need a man” First of all I am incredibly content with being alone and not being bothered.

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No, I don’t want to rush into a marriage especially if it’s with someone that doesn’t want the same thing. Dating a man that gives you false hope is one of the dumbest shit ever, and I’ve experienced it, and I am pretty sure a lot of women have. The worse thing you can do is waste my time and not be upfront and honest with me. What’s the point of wasting my time?

Marriage in 2018 is different from when our parents and grandparents were dating. There is DM’s, Instagram, Snapchat, Facebook messenger and I can go on forever. In my opinion, a lot of people don’t take dating serious anymore. You meet someone, you start dating, everything is going well, you decide you like each other, you have sex, BAM ya’ll fighting because your man is putting heart emoji’s under some girl he used to date pictures.

” Because I am female I am expected to aspire to marriage I am expected to make my life choices
Always keeping in mind that Marriage is the most important
Now marriage can be a source of Joy and love and mutual support But why do we teach girls to aspire to marriage
And we don’t teach boys the same?”   Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie

Listen I am all for marriages, dating, and committed relations, but what am I rushing to be in one for? I am living for ME I’d like to enjoy that for a while. It’s fun becoming the new person I am as a 30-year-old. People think oh because you hit 30 you need to rush into a relationship and all of a sudden get married….NOOOOOO. My best advice is live for you because when the time is right for marriage, you will know it.

I wanna here your opinion on being single in 2018. Comment, share, and subscribe to get in the conversation.  See ya’ll soon!!!

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5 thoughts on “Dating in 2018

  1. RIGHT, THERE WITH YOU!!
    Honestly, I am 31, and have discovered the same mindset. it’s okay to finally enjoy this season, do things for me, and then prepare to take care and enjoy life with another!

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  2. Agreed. A lot of people out here are living on Front St. for strangers. People go into relationships not knowing themselves and spread that confusing energy. We need more people who are honest like you- honest and comfortable enough to be single so that when their match comes along, that person will be a lovely bonus, not a “better half” or “heartbeat” but someone to walk with in the same direction.

    Good post! I can relate.

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    1. You are welcome! I think it is important to know you before you just jump into a relationship. Because if you don’t know yourself how will you get to know your potential husband or wife?

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